For example, if you are a fisherman, it’s when you don’t catch a fish more than 1 outing in a row! To a baseball player, it’s when you don’t get a hit for a long time-maybe 4 games in a row. To a wide receiver, it’s when you drop 3 balls in a row. For a Coach it’s when you lose more games than you did last year. For a young man, it’s when you get turned down by girls more than 3 times in a row. For a young lady, it’s when you have a bad hair day 2 times in a week-You get the picture. So basically, when you get in a slump, ‘you’ start doubting who you are and you lose self-confidence!
So, to maintain self-confidence you need to remember that who you are and how you think about yourself is something that should not be dependent upon the outcomes of the events in which you participate. Although there are plenty of people out there that will try to make you think that the outcome is ‘you’.
I love this quote by Yogi Berra: "Slump? I ain't in no slump... I just ain't hitting."
This is a perfect example of Yogi separating himself from some classification that would label him as currently ‘bad’—even though it’s assumed that a slump is only for a period of time and the person eventually climbs out of the slump. Yogi wasn’t going to allow him to think of himself as ‘bad’—he “just ain’t hitting!”
All of us have periods of times in our lives when we “just ain’t hitting”. During those times, we need to keep working, keep swinging, and keep moving forward on our day’s journey. Don’t park along the side of the road and allow our self-concept (how we think of our self) to change or start doubting who we are just because “we ain’t hitting”—we open ourselves up to misperceptions and this can lead us to despair.
So to avoid the ‘slump’ you remember that the real ‘you’ is being demonstrated by the fact that you keep swinging-and you don’t change your self-concept because you “just ain’t hitting”. The decisions or actions (heck of a curve ball) will influence an outcome (the loss of a game) but it is different than ‘you’ the person. The real ‘you’ is demonstrated by the level of participation (keep swinging) and dedication that you make to an effort. Try your best, work hard, help others, seek out those in need and you will find happiness and joy.
And as that day ends, you take the learning’s from the day and apply them to the next day to help you to work harder, work smarter, be more perceptive, be kinder, laugh more, be more observant, etc.
This is the beauty of life! There are always opportunities on your journey to improve and increase your confidence. What’s interesting is the more you focus on helping out others along the way, you will have greater insights into your life and start to see the real ‘you’. Acts of kindness, helping others, working hard and sharing your ice cream all help you feel better about yourself!
Note: And just before your next ‘at bat’, there will always be those people sitting on the side of the road of your current day’s journey, making observations (not helping-just criticizing) that remind you that you haven’t got a hit in 4 games and will attempt to classify you as one that is in a slump—your response: “I just ain’t hitting” (Thanks Yogi!!) and just keep moving forward on your journey! Smiling-because you know you are going to just keep swinging!
The best is yet to come!